We need to chat

My mind has been dwelling on comment I made to dad last week, which prompted me to think of how things have changed due to the fact we spend a lot of time online.
I must add that I have made some wonderful friends via social networks and other online forums. I cherish these friendships and despite never having met I treat them like my extended family.

Last week I mentioned in passing to dad that my friend had commented about a subject. Immediately dad asked how my friend was, what was her weather like and how her husband was. This may not seem odd but I replied that it was only a tweet. I stopped in my tracks and realised that the older generation don’t really grasp the 140 character replies we have become so used to making. They couldn’t even comprehend a ‘like’ of emoji may be the substance of a conversation. Life back before we had the internet involved actual conversations, feelings and genuine care. Do we really want our conversations to be a ‘symbol’ a ‘star’ or a ‘like/ok’? I use all of these to communicate but I also chat to my friends via messages or even the ‘now’ old fashioned email. I don’t think I would have such close online friendships if all I did was send an emoji or a like to my friends everyday. My reply to dad emphasised to me the importance of conversations in real life and online by whatever form that means to us.

Life is busy and often I feel I just want to stop everything and take time to get back to old fashioned meaningful ways. I know a digital detox wouldn’t be the way as I would loose contact with some of my closet friends. I don’t want to think real conversations will be replaced by social buttons and the on going quest online to do whatever it takes to gain followers. Time for family and friends is very important and this involves conversations, caring for how others are feeling. Don’t just ask but wait for their reply as often they will have a problem which requires a listening ear or a little more TLC than any button could give.

Sometimes it takes the older generation who lived life day by day surrounded by family and friends with nowhere to express publicly if something upset them. The old saying ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ would have been their struggle but reality was always there when money couldn’t buy everything. We have a lot to be thankful for with the opportunities the Internet gives to us but when it becomes stressful in our lives or hinder the way we react to others then it’s time to get back to conversations and giving our time to family and friends at home or online.


Yesterday when we were out for a walk, I saw this wood carving and it prompted me to come home and write my blog as it summed up the concept which I experienced last week.

Thank you for taking time to read my thoughts


Obstacle or resting place?

Sometimes we can’t see the wood for the trees. 
Is this an obstacle, is it a hurdle or is it the resting place we need? 
When life presents challenges look beyond the obstacles, there’s exploring to do when we can see clearly and step over the hurdle we suddenly face along the way. 

The woodland breathes for us when we stop to catch breath 

This little light

There are times when I go through every emotion trying to comprehend why things happen. I become anxious feeling I am a failure and recently I have been deeply affected by people who count potential by their number followers or ‘hitting the popular page’ I don’t want to dwell on the negative side of things I have experienced online recently. I want to feel better by thinking about how I can help someone who may be struggling just like me.

Today I heard sad news from a friend. I have friends from school days who don’t worry about being ‘liked’ or ‘followed’. We haven’t met each other since leaving school yet when circumstances arise we know what it is to be true friends. I am thankful we haven’t lost touch and we have a link which is made stronger when we need each other.


My troubled mind takes solace in the words of CS Lewis
Don’t shine so others can see you. Shine so that through you, others can see Him

Time to think

It is all too easy to be so involved online with apps and networks and forget to take time to chat with a friend who cares and faces the same or similar problems. Everything changes just like the seasons. Take time at the start of a new season to comtemplate what and who is important to you. Get back to discovering the simple, traditional qualities in life


Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything has? © C. S. Lewis

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